You know these questions very well: “Can you tell me what a dating site is? How do I work this thing?” For many single dads, Internet dating was not an option when they were in the dating pool. And, let’s face it, for some single dads the Internet wasn’t even born when they recited their vows.

It’s difficult enough to navigate the dating world when you’re single and perhaps even more difficult when you’re looking to date again after marriage. So, if you’re a dad who is single again, we have five tips that will help you get on your way to a successful online dating experience.

1. View This As A Good Chance

Being on a dating site and revealing the fact that you have a child is an advantage you may not have in another scenario. Be honest and upfront about your status as a single dad in your dating profile. You come as a package!

Divorced daters also have an advantage in that they have learned something about themselves and what they’re looking for in a partner. Write out all the things you have learned about yourself and what you believe you must have and can’t stand in a potential mate. Examine the list so that you have clarity on your needs and dating goals moving forward.

2. Know When You’re Ready To Date Seriously And Make Your Intentions Known

It can be exciting to date again after many years of marriage; but you may not want to rush into another relationship when you are newly separated. It’s important to take some time to date again and exercise your dating muscle. It’s also important to make your intentions known so that people who find you online realize you’re not looking for a serious commitment at this point in time.

When you’re ready to get into a serious relationship again and/or if you’re interested in having more children in the future, it’s also a good idea to highlight these facts in your dating profile. Many women are drawn to a man with good family values and you’ll access a pool of women who are looking for the same thing.

3. Know When Your Kids Are Ready

Your child doesn’t need to know the details of your dating life or your online dating activity. Generally speaking, it’s a good idea to date for at least a few months before an introduction is made between your child and your date. It’s important to see serious long-term potential before you integrate the person you’re dating into your family.

Remember - your child didn’t choose to be in this situation; and after going through a divorce, stability is important for him or her. Refer to your new date as a ‘friend’ until you are certain it’s something more.

4. Spend Less Than Half Of Your Profile Talking About Your Child

Of course being a dad is an important part of your life and you should mention this in the ‘About Me’ section. In most cases it’s good to spend a few lines talking about your favorite activities with your child and what you love about being a parent, and then move on. You have more interests and facets to your identity than being a dad, so find the balance when you’re writing your online profile.

Include simple photos of yourself - a close up and one full-body shot works best online. If you want to include a photo of your child, that’s fine too - just remember that the internet attracts predators. For this reason, you may not want to post a shot that shows a clear view of your child’s face or advertises too much personal or contact information.

5. Do Your Research And Have Fun!

Surf around the net and look at dating profiles of single dads across the country. Pick a few that you like and want to emulate in your dating profile. Most important, take the pressure off yourself and HAVE FUN.

Always keep your dating profile upbeat, positive and humorous. Women are attracted to men who are confident and playful. It’s OK to reflect on what you’ve learned through your last relationship but leave the negativity out!

We think being a devoted single dad is sexy! It shows women that you are loyal, have good care-taking abilities and solid family values. These are the very same qualities that are often cited by women who are looking for a mate.

So - when you’re figuring out how to ‘work this thing’ known as online dating, remember that 40 million other users are wondering the same thing and most are just hoping that someone like you is out there to meet.

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