Nice Guys Finish First? (part 2)

The key is to be sincere in your efforts to get to know the women you are interested in. Your purpose should be to determine the best woman for you and then focus your attention on that one woman.

If you use the guise of friends as a way to manipulate and get women to sleep with you it will backfire. It may not happen today but trust me something will go wrong. Whatever you do it’s not a good idea to lead women on. “Hell hath no fury like a woman scorn.” Don’t ever forget that.

Now here’s the fun part! As you get to know the women and they get to know you a few of them will begin to stand out from the crowd.

Yet, there isn’t a rush to pick one until you are sure of what you want and need. Have fun, go out, experience new things and enjoy your time with the women!

It is also a good idea to be very honest with the women. Let each one know you have other friends as well. Don’t hide anything! Give each woman the option to continue to talk with you or not if they don’t like the idea of you having women friends.

This works in your favor and provides you with three benefits!

First, the women who continue to talk with you will appreciate your honesty, as it’s something they rarely get from men.

Second, the women who don’t stay save you from wasting your time and probably wouldn’t be a good match for you.

Third, if you are sincere in getting to know the women and do not sleep with them, it shows they can trust you to be around other women and not have sex. I cannot stress the importance of this benefit.

Remember, there is a shortage of men in the United States and around the world. So, if the woman you pick knows she can trust you it’s a plus and will go a long way in eliminating many issues that could have popped up in the future.

For example, I have a friend who knew I was interested in her. Yet, nothing happened between us for over a year. When I ended a relationship with my lady it opened the door for the possibility of my friend and I to spend time with each other and have fun!

My being honest, upfront and not making a move on her when I had a lady gained her respect and trust. If the friendship develops into more, she knows I would not do anything to jeopardize our relationship.

Being friends, honest and trustworthy is only one part of the puzzle. The second part is just as important. You need to have goals and strive to achieve them.